Why disclosing your sexual health status matters
Here’s how to have that conversation
How To Be Sexually Confident With Scotty Unfamous And Madam Storm
Meet MSSS, the sexual happiness experts, learn some tips on sexual confidence, and find out about their exclusive online workshop.
What’s In A Name? When It Comes To Sex, Sometimes Everything
Our regular guest blogger James Mycroft tells us why Juliet, undeniably a great lover, possibly wouldn’t have been such a brilliant shag.
Who’s The World’s Fastest Wanker?
Today we’re welcoming the amazing vlogger DaveyWavey to the HotOctopuss blog. We gave him some PULSE SOLO ESSENTIALs and to really put them through their paces, he’s staged the PULSE Olympics! It’s a sprint to the finish line, as he challenges three friends to become the World’s Fastest Wanker…
Sex And Mental Health Management
Can sex help you manage a mental health condition? Cherith Fuller explains how it works for her.
Santa's Lap
Girl on the net is the queen of written and audio erotica and she is back again for our 2022 advent calendar! Who knew Christmas could be so sexy?
Erotica Challenge – Jilly Boyd
Jilly Boyd is the latest to take up our ongoing erotica challenge, which aims to celebrate the fact that there are many different ways to enjoy sex, whatever one’s limitations or challenges.
Reaching More Customers with Disabilities and Health Conditions
We’re putting a call out for people with disabilities and health conditions that affect their sex lives to get in touch and help us expand the ways Hot Octopuss serves them.
How To Live With A Micropenis
What is a micropenis and how do you live with it? Gareth May interviewed Jon, who wasn’t diagnosed until age 28, and discusses the mental health impact of late diagnosis.
How To Have Great Sex During Perimenopause
Hormonal shifts can affect your sex life, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have great sex during perimenopause and beyond. Nicci Talbot explains that it’s a great opportunity to experiment.
Marriage And Transition: A Partner’s Perspective
Pride Month is here and it’s not just queer folx who are celebrating! Fresh from inside queer/trans/BIPOC land, I’ve bundled my best suggestions to fuel your fire for allyship and bring some sparkle into your June. Happy Pride!
Summer Heatwave Sex Tips
If you’ve been reading our blog for a while, you’ll already know that sex isn’t all about penetration.
Is Scissoring A Thing?
Jenny Guerin is one of the lovely sex writers we've met at Eroticon, a conference for erotic creatives, writers, bloggers, photographers, and artists. So when she offered to write this piece answering one of queer life’s eternal questions, we jumped at the chance. Jenny is a sex writer and ethical porn advocate from London. You can read more on her website.
BDSM Advice: What’s up with roleplay?
Dear Zentai - What’s up with role play?
What Counts As A ‘Male Vibrator’?
When you look at much of the marketing around sex toys that buzz, you could easily get the mistaken impression that vibrators are exclusively for women.
How To BDSM – Beginner’s Guide
Shakira Scott aka Scotty Unfamous shares her tips for exploring your wild side so you can live your best kinky heaux life
When Sex Is An Extreme Sport
Here’s another great erotic and thoughtful guest post from James Mycroft – this time about a sporting injury that’s got nothing to do with running or rock climbing…
What Is A Sex Educator?
Excellent sex educators are so important for reducing stigma around sexuality. We look in detail at this fascinating field.
How Do Porn Laws Affect You?
Rule 34 of the internet states that if something exists, there will be porn of it.
Sex Blog Memes That Will Bring You Joy
We can say with 100% confidence that if you enjoy reading our sex toy blog, you’ll love reading some of the other fantastic sex blogs dotted around the internet.
Chronic Sex at Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit
We’ve wanted to attend Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit for a while. So this year we were chuffed to be invited to co-sponsor a day in its Bloggers’ Lounge along with friends from Doxy and Sheets of San Francisco.
Delayed Ejaculation And Performance Anxiety
I am a 60-year-old man, married to my wife for 38 years. We enjoy being with each other and I have always been the horny one. I enjoy giving my wife oral sex ending in orgasm with the help of a vibrator.
Horny And Menopausal? What The Research Says
Author Jane Fleishman, PhD, MEd, MS breaks down sex drive science for senior women. Warning: your doctor might be wrong.
How To Stimulate The P-Spot For Awesome Prostate Orgasms
Prostate massage or anal pleasure during solo and shared play can be pleasurable for anyone, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Find out absolutely everything you need to know to have awesome prostate orgasms.
What is Cuffing Season?
Following on from drafting season, here is cuffing season
BDSM Advice: What kind of kink can I do by myself?
Dear Zentai - I’m single. What kind of kink can I do by myself?
Why the Sex Toy Industry Needs Queering Up
Queer it up – Here at Queers Next Door, we believe that just about everything needs queering up, especially when it comes to sex.
Erectile Dysfunction: Coming Without An Erection?
It’s not every day you’re perusing a medical journal and you get the inspiration for a brand new sex toy. But some things just grab your attention – like the fact that there are medical tools which can induce ejaculation without the need for an erection.
Sex On TV and Hands Free Masturbation
If you’ve been using your PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL for hands-free masturbation at the computer, taking advantage of the fact that you can use both of your hands to browse your chosen… ahem… material, then know that you’re not the only one.
Antidepressants and the Lost Orgasm
Andrea Hubert on masturbation and antidepressants
Joan Price Q & A
Ask out senior sexpert Joan Price a question about sex when you're older
National Orgasm Day: 7 Unusual Tips to Help You Hit That ‘O’
National Orgasm Day is on 31st July in many countries worldwide, and we’re sure people across the UK will be eager to join in the celebrations.
Kelly Perks-Bevington: Top Five Sex Tips for Disabled Women
These sex tips for disabled women aren’t exactly traditional, but it’s taken me the majority of my adult life to learn them, so I guess that’s quite important!
Why We Use ‘Guybrator’ To Describe Our Dick Toys
As a team, probably one of the longest ongoing debates we’ve had is over the use of the word ‘Guybrator’. And we know that some of our customers and reviewers have thoughts on this as well.
Can’t Keep An Erection Long Enough For Sex
At 70, I am experiencing a lessening of my ability to keep an erection throughout sex. I have tried ED meds and they don’t seem to help. Is there anything else?
Cocks Not Glocks Highlights Weird Sex Toy Laws
If you’ve been keeping up with the latest sex toy news (and why wouldn’t you?) you’ll have spotted quite a bizarre sight: students from the University of Texas in Austin have been carrying giant dildos around campus.
Vulva Owners’ Masturbation Myths, Tips & Black Friday Toy Deals
Vulva owners, let's debunk some popular masturbation myths and celebrate this Black Friday with some top tips & sex toy deals.
KURVE Kegel Party G-Spot Awareness Practice Sexercise
This sexercise is developed to help strengthen your ability to access conscious awareness of your G-Spot-and develop increased muscle tone and control over your pelvic floor muscles.
Tips For Dating A Non-Binary Person On Grindr
Thinking of dating a non-binary person? Spotted someone on Grindr or other dating app but not sure how to chat to them without getting it wrong? Ben Pechey offers some tips.
What Is Testicular Torsion?
Adam England describes his experience with testicular torsion as a teenager, and the impact the condition had on his mental health.
How to Celebrate Black Friday 2023 – The Ultimate Play Party Checklist
Here are our reasons why a play party can fantastically celebrate the season, how to find or host one, things to keep in mind, and everything else you need to enjoy this giving-getting all sorts of erotic presents!
I Never Wanted to Marry Him
My husband and I married very late in life in our mid-70s, six months ago. It was my third marriage, his eighth! He equates sex with love, while I want a deeper relationship. He wants sex at least twice a day — morning and evening.
How To Use A Hands-Free Couples’ Sex Toy
Every sex toy can be a couples sex toy if you use it right. From vibrators you use to get a bit of extra stimulation during a shag, to masturbators you watch your partner using – everything counts as a couples sex toy if your partner is up for sharing.
Threesome Tips – How To Hook Up With A Couple For The First Time
Cherith Fuller loves being a unicorn – and after a lot of trial and error, here are her top threesome tips if you’re looking to hook up with a couple for the first time.
Why London Is The Sexiest City In The World
Sydney is quite seductive, and Tokyo can be tantalising, but we think London is the sexiest city in the world.
Are You Feeling Sexy During Lockdown?
Are you feeling sexy these days? Whether you’re sheltering in place with others or alone, your libido is probably feeling the effects of stress and isolation. Maybe you feel sexier than usual, or less sexy, or not at all sexy. These are all normal reactions, says Joan Price.
Painful Sex At Menopause – What Can I Do?
Painful sex at menopause – Going through the perimenopause and menopause might mean your sex life takes a turn for the worse – but, says Dr Louise Newson, it really doesn’t have to.
International Fetish Day: Everything You Need To Know
Happy International Fetish Day! Amy Norton runs you through the key facts about this day of kinky protest and celebration: What does it mean? Why’s it so important? And how do you explore your fetish?
How To Know If You’re Non-binary
Most folks don’t just wake up one day and think, “I’m nonbinary!” But those who do... we’re jealous. It’s normal to be uncertain or have fluctuating feelings about gender that may never completely resolve. Here is some perspective and tips from somebody who’s been there before. This article is part 2 of our nonbinary series authored by Elliott Ennis.
I Went to a Vibrator Salon That Wants You to Have an Orgasm on Your Lunch Break
If someone gave you the opportunity to go into a tiny, closet-size room in the middle of the workday to masturbate, would you do it? What if I told you that if you went into the little closet masturbation room, you could also have a free vibrator that normally costs $149? Would you do it then? Adam Lewis, the founder and CEO of London-based sex toy company Hot Octopuss, hopes that you would, which is why he built the world's first "orgasm pop-up shop" in the middle of downtown Manhattan.
Penis Vibrators: How To Use JETT
Penis Vibrators: some are better than others! Besides being the world’s first guybrator, JETT is known for providing relief from erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, and sheer boredom. Author M. Christian penned the definitive guide to this advanced piece of sex tech, so read on if you want to figure out once and for all how to use JETT to achieve hands-free orgasms.
Sexy Christmas Gifts For The Porn Lover In Your Life
Too many Christmas gift guides focus on ‘gifts for him’ or ‘gifts for her’, which is frustrating for those of us who want to pick presents based on thoughtfulness rather than gender.
Sex After Transition: Love Is A Many-Gendered Thing
Jen Dragon talks about sex and transitioning
Senior Sex Hub - You're Never Too Old!
Senior Sex means keeping that spark for life. No matter your age, you are never too old to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
Peyronie's Disease Might Turn Off Partner
My penis has narrowed and shortened caused by Peyronie’s disease. I used to have 7-1/2 inches, now it’s 6-1/4. That’s an issue for me, as a guy, but unless a lady was familiar with my former length, she would not be aware of the change. She would just consider me short.
The Future Of Male Sex Toys
The future of masturbation is looking pretty bright. In fact, the present is already getting exciting: with advances in sex tech hitting the headlines, and cool new technology coming down in price, the time has never been better to explore the future of male sex toys, and porn.
8 Cunnilingus Techniques Everyone Needs
The idea of going down on a woman for the first time, is enough to fill most of us with dread. There is an unspoken implication that, if you’re going to do it, you have to do it properly. You must drive her wild and her legs should absolutely be shaking like crazy, once you are done. Pressure indeed!
The Future of Onanism: 6 Sex Toys That Redefine Male Masturbation
We hear all about tech innovations in phones, cameras, cars, even glasses almost every day. But one category has eluded the spotlight for what seems like decades: sex toys for men.
Halloween BDSM: A How-To Guide
Halloween BDSM: let’s show this pandemic who’s boss!
Tired Of One-Sided Sex
“How can I get myself interested in sex again when I just want to sleep?”
Joan Price’s Ultimate Senior Sex Tips
Joan Price is an advocate for ageless sexuality, runs a blog about senior sex and is one of our favourite sex educators. Here she is with her ultimate tips for staying sexy in later life.
Sex Requirement for Marriage
I am a 60-year-old single male. I still very much desire sex, but I believe that sex is reserved for a close, loving marriage. I want to find a partner for a sex-filled, intimate, affectionate marriage. But many women are not interested in the physical aspect – sex! – and only pretend to be interested to trap the man.
Penis Vibrator Tips: How To Use JETT
When you launch a new sex toy, there’s always an exciting (and nerve-wracking!) period of time where you wait for the reviews and customer testimonials to start coming in. JETT – our brand new penis vibrator with Treble & Bass technology (more on that later) – launched earlier this year, and we were really excited to hear what people made of it. But even with high expectations, we’ve been blown away by the reception to this unique toy.
Erectile Dysfunction Sex Aids: Then and Now
From evil spirits to impotence ‘courts’, history has some very strange tales to tell about erectile dysfunction. Luckily these days doctors have a good understanding of the causes of ED as well as how to treat it.
Last Minute Christmas Gifts For Your Lover
In a panic? Left it too late again? Fear not, here are some last-minute Christmas gifts with a ‘sexy and sensual’ theme that will definitely arrive on time.
Why Healthcare Professionals Should Recommend Sex Toys To Patients
Samantha Evans, founder of retailer Jo Divine, discusses the medical profession’s approach to sexual dysfunction and how this needs to change.
Zentai Q & A
Your questions about the weird and wonderful - answered
Sexy Christmas Gift Guide for Him, Her & Them 2021
Here are the best Christmas sex toys and deals to add a little unexpected holiday spirit for you and your loved ones.
Sex Toy Advent Calendar
The Christmas countdown is on! Forget about candy and socks, let’s stuff that stocking with the unexpected. The Hot Octopuss elves have been cooking up some freaky little treats for their favourite holiday deviants (that’s you!)
Dating Advice, Please
At 59, I’m divorced and starting to date again, and my long-dormant libido has returned. I really want to have sex with some of the men I’m meeting, but I’m nervous about two things.
Man Suffocating from Lack of Intimacy
I’m 68, married for 40 years. This week I told my wife I was suffocating from several years of a lack of intimacy. I said that she could not expect me to forget about my sexuality — that’s a normal part of a person. Expecting no intimacy was like asking me to stop breathing.
Fishy Smell, Emu Oil?
Coconut oil and Vitamin E stopped working for me, so I am freezing and using emu oil as a vaginal lubricant. Do you have any information about safety? Also, since last winter, I’ve had a slightly “fishy” odor.
Virtual Reality Porn: How To Watch It
At Hot Octopuss we’re fans of new technology, especially if that new technology can be paired with awesome sex toys like the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL. And nothing is more perfect for this than virtual reality porn, which puts you up close and personal with adult performers, either making it feel as if you’re in the same room or – in many cases – putting you right in the middle of the action, as it were.
The Initiate
Read aurore is the home of erotic stories based out of Brooklyn New York. They are here to tease, to educate and to inspire and we are SO lucky that they wrote this for our virtual advent calendar
What Are The Best Sex Toys For Women? 17 Innovative Products To Try Now
For the month of September, Bustle’s Sex TBH package is talking about sex, honestly. We’re delving into how women approach the things they’re taught to be shy or embarrassed about in the bedroom — and, in doing so, we're liberating people to live their best (sex) lives. Let’s do it.
11 Things To Do While You Have A Hands-Free Orgasm
Not to brag, but PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL is capable of giving you a hands-free orgasm.
Ask Zentai: To Squirt Or Not To Squirt?
I’d really like to help my wife squirt. How can we make this happen? Once it happens will it happen all or most of the time?
Masturbation For Females – Taking Ownership of Your Pleasure
In this article, Sophia Reading delivers a royal ass-whooping to the conditioning of sexual disempowerment for women and other AFAB folks. On top of that, here are some crystal clear tips on how to dive into masturbation to strengthen your connection with your body and pleasure.
Erotica Stories: More Ways Than One
Jerusalem Mortimer‘s sexy story about a man who discovers *many* more ways than one of satisfying a lover in one night.
Pocket PULSE Reviewers Say YEEESSS!
We sent out our first batch of Pocket PULSE Remote review toys just before Christmas… and we’ve been on the edge of our seats ever since, waiting for the reviews to come in.
‘GuyFi’ booth brings relief to overworked NYC men
With a staggering 80 per cent of Americans saying they suffer from workplace stress, award-winning sex toy brand Hot Octopuss has launched the world’s first ‘GuyFi’ male stress relief booth in Manhattan.
Tackling modern masturbation myths
It’s easy for us to laugh at historical mistakes: the old myth that excessive masturbation would damage your vision, for instance, is one that very few people would give credence to today.
How To Host An Adult Halloween Play Party
Halloween sex parties are becoming increasingly popular. It is a fresh take on a typical sex party, often referred to as a play party, by having a Halloween theme which typically tends to lean on BDSM but it is completely up to you.
Best Penis Toys: Tips From Experts
Our customers and reviewers are amazing. Not only do they have excellent taste, but they regularly get in touch with us to give us extra tips and tricks for using PULSE, our award-winning, flagship dick toy.
Can Straight Guys Like Butt Stuff?
Can straight guys like butt stuff? Of course they can! Jack Stover shares one man’s journey to a whole new hole.
A right to pleasure for everybody and every body
Scarlett Ward works as a writer, poet, and publisher, as well as working in the sexual wellness industry with Little Leaf Agency. She is a chronically-online Insta-obsessed Millennial who lives with Multiple Sclerosis.
Seniors Speak about Sex - Part 1
Our Hot Octopuss Senior Sex Hub usually aims to answer your questions and help you fix your sex and relationship problems.
Cloudy Smelly Urine
It has been six years since I had sex. I’ve started having an odor when I urinate. It’s been three weeks and the odor is still occurring. Also, my urine is a little cloudy.
The Stonewall Generation: Interview With Jane Fleishman
In this compelling article, Joan Price interviews Jane Fleishman Ph.D., author of “The Stonewall Generation.” This work seeks to shine light on the intersectionality of the LGBTQ movement as well as give a voice to the important issues of sex, activism, and aging.
Can You Recycle Your Sex Toys?
You can recycle so much of your household waste these days, but can you recycle your sex toys? The good news is that you may be able to recycle your sex toys, if you live somewhere that accepts electronic waste (sometimes known as 'E-waste') to recycle.
Joan Price Bio
Author and speaker Joan Price calls herself an ‘advocate for ageless sexuality’. She has been called other things by the media: ‘senior sexpert’, ‘the beautiful face of senior sex’, and—her favorite —’wrinkly sex kitten’
Multiple Sclerosis and climax - the silent O nobody wants to acknowledge.
Scarlett Ward works as a writer, poet, and publisher, as well as working in the sexual wellness industry with Little Leaf Agency. She is a chronically-online Insta-obsessed Millennial who lives with Multiple Sclerosis.
Dysorgasmia – What Causes Painful Orgasms?
Sex blogger Petra Pan talks about her experiences with dysorgasmia – painful orgasms – and offers her tips for overcoming this little-known condition.
5 Things From Netflix’s Sex Education We Wish They’d Taught Us At School
Netflix’s funny-but-touching teen comedy show Sex Education is causing quite a stir in the UK and beyond, and the team at HO is about to go into binge-watch mode.
The Hard Facts About The “First” Male Vibrator
Don't let the suave British speaker in the video below distract you. He's describing a new sex toy specifically designed for men — one that's being billed as the so-called "first male vibrator." But, while the Hot Octopuss Pulse II definitely presents exciting developments in male-sex-toy technology, it's just another in a long line of sex toys for men.
ANAL SEX: GETTING STARTED
Let’s start with a disclaimer: nobody HAS to do anal sex. Or want to try it.
Oscillating Vibrators Are the Hot New Trend in Sex Tech
When you use a lot of sex toys, they can all start to blend together—in part because they all seem to vibrate in slight variations of the same way. Some toys may be more powerful than others, but they all pretty much make a basic rumbling motion. Or so I thought—until I learned about Hot Octopuss's new clitoral stimulator, which uses an oscillator to create movement.
Why aficionados like anal (and why you might too)
Anal sex has always had something of a negative press - often by those who haven’t yet had the pleasure. While liking sex has now been accepted for all genders, liking (or even preferring) anal always seemed to cast a shadow upon your character. Which means there’s a host of people out there who may love it - but probably already think they won’t.
PULSE INTERACTIVE Sex Toy Sets
Recommended by Davey Wavey, the PULSE SOLO INTERACTIVE gay couples sets for penises are a world first. Connect online and see who cums first.
How to have Simultaneous Orgasms
It’s the Holy Grail of straight sex: simultaneous orgasms. How many romantic films and TV shows have you seen that don’t depict the (usually young, white, non-disabled, conventionally attractive) hetero couple coming triumphantly at exactly the same time, often during their very first night together?
Frenulum Orgasms – The Penis’ Best Kept Secret
Frenulum Orgasms – the little-known secret tucked beneath the glans of the penis. This highly sensitive area is packed with nerves capable of unleashing out-of-this-world orgasms. What’s the catch? Penetration has nothing to do with it! Resident blogger Queen P spills the beans on this hidden gem.
Unusual Sex Toy Tips From Vibrating Wand Fans
When we started making sex toys, we quickly learnt that our customers are just as innovative as we are when it comes to exploring pleasure. Every week they send us their unusual sex toy tips, telling us how they turbo-charge their experience with our products.
Can You Have Good Sex After Menopause?
“Is there sex after menopause?” a reader asked, dismayed by her sexual changes. Sex after menopause does have its challenges — that’s why I keep writing [books about senior sex](https://joanprice.com/books). But I’m here from decades past menopause to tell you that life at this age can be fabulous — including the sex.
Last-Minute Sexy Gifts and Deals for a Very Merry Christmas
Here’s your chance to pick up one or more of the best sex toy deals for that special someone on your “naughty” list Ring in the New Year with orgasms galore!
How To Find A Unicorn – Navigating Threesomes Ethically
Threesomes. Unicorns. They sound good in theory, but the risks are great. Girl On The Net gives advice on how to find your third and treat them right.
KURVE G-spot Toy Reviews
KURVE G-spot vibrator is a smash hit! Here are just a few of the rave reviews flooding our inboxes with delight. Thirsty for the juicy details from those who’ve experienced KURVE’s squishy tip and Treble and Bass motors first hand?
Kinky Roleplay Anarchy
“If you’d like to give roleplay a try but you want something that lets you decide on the level of power exchange you want, and lets you play with gender however you like, today is your lucky day.” Sophia Reading breaks down kinky roleplay anarchy for folks who want a different take on this BDSM favorite.
The Joys of Perineum Stimulation
At Hot Octopuss we’re always trying to find new ways to get you off and engineer turbo-charged orgasms. With the launch of our next-generation cock ring ATOM PLUS we’re not only providing mega-intense vibration for both partners, but we’re also giving some attention to an oft-overlooked area – the perineum.
Where are all the sex toys for older adults?
It isn’t every day you see a sex toy on a billboard, and it’s even more rare you’ll see one in the hands of a person in their seventies. But thanks to Grace and Frankie, the Netflix sitcom starring Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda, that’s exactly what people saw(opens in a new tab) when the show’s third season premiered last year. The series, which centers around two friends who face many challenges while trying to create a vibrator for seniors, has brought to light an interesting real-life question: Where are all the sex toys for older people?
In Search Of Guilt Free Kink
What happens when your sexual desires don’t match those you were raised to believe were the ‘right’ ones? Sex blogger May More discusses guilt and kink – and how to get over it.
Tech Sex Counts As ‘Real’ Sex
Guest blogger James Mycroft this month tackles the issue of ‘real sex’ versus ‘tech sex’ (i.e. using products like our toys to enhance sex life). And he explains why one isn’t any better (or realer) than the other.
Does A Cock Ring Work With A Strap On?
An intrepid queer couple tried out our ATOM and ATOM PLUS cock rings with their favourite strap-on. Did it work?
If Using A Sex Toy Counted As Cheating…
Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t count as cheating. Using a sex toy doesn’t… oh what’s the use? No matter how many people take the time to patiently explain that sex toys – being inanimate objects – aren’t the same as actual human beings you have sex with, there’ll always be a few people who worry that using a sex toy counts as cheating.
PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL DRAGON EYE
Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy
Can’t Enjoy Sex Anymore? Reclaiming Your Sex Life
It’s not unusual for vulva-owners to go through times when they can’t enjoy sex in the way they used to. In fact, it’s so common in older women that a major study on the topic was recently published in medical journal Menopause.
Attracted to Mother-in-Law, Should I Tell Her?
I am 58 and about to be separated from my wife. My mother-in-law is 80, and I have been attracted to her for about 30 years. I have this gut feeling she is attracted to me, too. How would I go about telling her how I feel?
BOTTOMS UP!
Anal positions to try for maximum pleasure
Sex & Disability
Disabled Sex means knowing that pleasure has no limits. No matter your disability, you have a human right to a fulfilling sex life.
Sex Aids For People With Mobility Issues
At what point does a ‘sex toy’ become a ‘sex aid’? A mystery for our ages, perhaps. In fact, we’d put sex toys and sex aids in exactly the same category – they’re all things which help us have better sex.
G-spot Orgasms: The Difference It Makes
In this article, we’ll explain how and why G-spot orgasms offer a world of pleasure to vulva owners. Whether you’re single or partnered, read on to get a taste of the wonderous delights of G-spot orgasms.
Sexy Tricks And Treats For Halloween
Perhaps one of the nicest things about the internet (yes, we know, there are some pretty horrible things about it too) is that celebrations and festivals get to spread further across the world. In the UK, we’ve traditionally been quite bad at Halloween: cheap costumes and a bit of fake blood on one night each year doesn’t exactly make for a scary evening.
WAP: The Eighth Wonder Of The World
You may need to sit down for this one, with your minds (and legs) open. In recent years, women have been taking back their sexuality and with that comes the waterfall that is female ejaculation!
Erotica: Edging With A Cock Ring
Regular guest blogger James Mycroft has written some of our most popular blog posts this year. This month he tackles erotica, describing the experience of using our ATOM cock ring… plus another one of our toys (can you work out which one?)… in a very sexy edging scenario.
Tight Vagina No Intercourse
I’m 72. I have not been able to have intercourse with my husband for the last five years. It seems like my vaginal canal is very small. I’m not sure I want to use dilators.
Sex Communication 101
How do you feel about sex communication in your relationship? From open and encouraging, to teasing or shutting down, sex communication can take many forms. Here are our top tips on how to use communication to get the connection and sex life of your dreams.
Hurt by Husband’s Porn Use
My husband is 74 and I am 52 – a 23-year difference in age. He watches porn and masturbates to it every day. It’s always interracial porn. He thinks I don’t know but I do. It hurts me. What can I do?
KURVE Demo
Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy
Seniors Speak about Sex - Part 2
The happiest and most sexually satisfied seniors communicate concerns and figure out inventive senior sex solutions and adaptations.
Sex Toys Are Good For You
Explore the importance of vaginal health and pleasure in our modern world. Discover how sex toys like the Kurve vibrator can help maintain vaginal health, combat ageing effects, and enhance sexual experiences. Learn about the benefits, debunk myths, and get practical tips for using internal toys. Find out why Hot Octopuss is revolutionising the way we prioritise self-care and pleasure. Read now!
Hands-Free Couples Masturbator: Best Sex Positions
So you’ve picked up an amazing PULSE DUO: suddenly all those weird and wonderful *Cosmo* sex positions are looking more interesting, with the added benefit of vibration for both of you.
How To Find The Most Unique Sex Toys
It’s natural that humans want to chase variety, in sex as well as elsewhere in life. Same-old-same-old masturbation is pleasurable, of course: even a bad wank is still nice.
How To Fetlife
FetLife is the greatest free resource on BDSM. Equal parts social network, learning platform, and dating service, Fet has created a culture of openness and celebration around the Lifestyle.
Sex Tech: Making The Sex Toys Of The Future
The world of sex tech is moving incredibly quickly – from new motors that create unique sensations to teledildonic toys that work over a long distance.
PULSE QUEEN
Here's how to make the most out of your Hot Octopuss toy
6 Best Christmas Sex Positions to Spice Up Your Festive Season
Let's focus on Christmas sex! Ho Ho Ho, there are actually a few cheeky Christmas sex positions that are dedicated to this magical time of the year!
Learning How To Deepthroat
Deepthroating . . . should you be scared, excited, or calling in reinforcements? Our expert consultant assured us that with proper communication and preparation, most people can attain proficiency at this advanced fellatio technique – and even enjoy themselves! We approached sexfluencer Shakira Scott on the topic of deepthroating and this is what she had to say.
Strengthen Erections - A Urologist’s Tips For Getting Your Penis In Shape
Want to strengthen your erection? Dr Judson Brandeis provides five top tips to help ensure your penis works as expected.
Masturbation As Self-Care
Little known fact: sometimes folks masturbate not just because it feels good, but because it’s good for you too! In this article guest author Sherrylsworld breaks down the importance of masturbation for self-care and gives tips for how you can start a smoking hot mindfulness practice today!
Erotica Stories: Sex & Disability For #MasturbationMonday
As we’ve written in a previous post about the best writers on sex and disability, we’re big fans of erotica publisher Sexy Little Pages and their latest anthology, Silence Is Golden.
How To Introduce Couples Sex Toys
Not everyone’s familiar with the idea of couples sex toys, so if you want to introduce them to your partner you might have to do a bit of explanation before you dive in.
Getting Deep: Vaginal Orgasms
Unlocking Pleasure: Exploring Internal Stimulation and Vaginal Orgasms | Discover the inside story on internal pleasure and the elusive G-spot. Learn why internal stimulation counts and how to enhance your sexual experiences. Dive into tips, techniques, and recommended toys for exploring deeper levels of pleasure. Find your path to ultimate satisfaction. Read now!
3 Unexpected Reasons Couples’ Sex Toys Are Essential
Using sex toys was once seen as a solo pleasure – and often a guilty one at that. But in recent years people have been waking up to the idea that sex toys might actually be an *addition* to couples’ sex lives, not a replacement for them.
5 Of The Best Cock Ring Sex Tips
Got a cock ring? Want to find out how to make the most of it? We’ve got you covered, with this handy guide to the best cock ring sex tips.
5 Reasons to Buy a Guybrator
The patented technology behind PULSE was originally designed to help induce orgasm in men with spinal injuries. It looks way cooler than a bit of medical kit, but it still does the same job.
Afterplay: Best Things to Do After Sex?
You can barely move for foreplay tips on the internet: advice on how to get things started, tips for turning your partner on via sexting and dirty talk, all that stuff.
Aural Sex: 10 Erotic Podcasts To Listen To In Lockdown
Erotic podcasts are booming, and they’re particularly useful if you’re struggling for privacy. Just chuck on those headphones and nobody around you is any the wiser. Here are our picks for the best erotic podcasts.
Masturbation: Scenes We’d Like To See
It might sound weird to call for more masturbation on TV. After all, we’re already treated to some pretty excellent sexy TV shows, and if we’re after anything more explicit then there’s a whole world of ethical porn to explore.
Penis Sensitivity 101
Too sensitive? Not sensitive enough? There’s a lot of misinformation out there that sets impossible standards for penis owners. Here are some down-to-earth suggestions by author M. Christian on how to manage your penis sensitivity and get on with having the best sex of your life.
Friends With Benefits: Is It Right For You?
Friends With Benefits – is that even a real thing? Guest writer Wolfe gives us the nitty-gritty on the what, why, and how of this relationship style. Read on for advice on how to successfully navigate the world of Friends With Benefits.
Solo Sex For Seniors
For seniors, masturbation is an important part of our self-care practice. Not only does it cause a mood boost, but it also keeps our genitals functioning and healthy. Here are the best toys and practices for seniors looking to bring a spark to their solo-sex practice.
Hot Octopuss Wins Male Sex Toy of the Year at 2015 XBIZ Awards
Our PULSE has won Male Sex Toy of the Year at the 2015 XBIZ Awards. The Awards, hosted by adult film superstar James Deen, was held inside a cutting-edge special events venue in downtown Los Angeles last week.
Erotica: Threesomes Are Not Like Porn
Here’s a touch of erotica pulled from the author’s personal life experience. It’s been rewritten from the perspective of a penis owner. As a reader, how do you think they did?
What anal toy is best for me
Imagine the disappointment; you recently discovered you enjoy anal sex, and now you’re starting to excitedly explore the world of anal sex toys. Then, through no fault of your own, you pick a toy so far beyond your sphincter’s current capability that it puts you off anal for life.
No Erection, How to Get Frisky?
I am a two-time prostate cancer survivor since 2005. I am unable to get an erection even with a variety of products. Sex with my wife has for the most part been nonexistent. She has health issues as well.
Are Butt Plugs Normal?
I am a curious guy, and once I saw anal plugs being used in porn, not knowing if they were painful or pleasurable, I bought a couple to try out. When my wife discovered them, she was surprised that I would want to use something that was not “normal” or healthy for regular intimacy.
Which Sex World Record Could You Beat?
Last weekend the Hot Octopuss team chatted about sex world records. Are there any categories in which people who use PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL compete? Could they potentially beat the competition?
Sex & Disability Products
We've collated some of the best Hot Octopuss products that can help people with disability enjoy a new type of pleasure.
Clitoral Stimulation: More Varied Than You Think
Clitoral Stimulation – If you’ve used the same masturbation technique all your life, it’s easy to forget – or simply never realise – just how many different ways there are to stimulate yourself.
Leandra Vane – Be Proud of your Phone Porn
Should you be proud of your phone porn? Leandra Vane argues the line between ‘porn’ and other media is much blurrier than you think.
Solo & Couple Players – Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day
February 14th - a day full of oh-so-very romantic gestures to demonstrate how much you love that special someone in your life. Here is Why You Must Buy a Sex Toy This Valentine's Day.
How To Shop For A Sexy Christmas Gift
The time is fast approaching: we can hear the jingling of bells, we’ve been slightly confused by the John Lewis advert, and at Hot Octopuss HQ we’re already thinking of fun ideas for blogs that will show you some of the sexy Christmas gift options you can buy for your partner.
If You Don’t Want Sex Anymore, Learn About Responsive Desire
Our resident senior sex expert Joan Price asks how you can test whether responsive desire works for you?
Hot Octopuss Review of the Month: ‘PULSE Has Saved My Sanity’
Following last month’s PULSE review from Davis, who is paraplegic, we’re pleased to share another amazing product review we’ve received in the past month, this time via our website from a former Marine.
More Brilliant Sex and Disability Bloggers
Following last month’s popular post introducing some stigma-busting sex and disability bloggers, here’s part two, in which Eve Adler, Pillow Princess, Helen’s Toybox and Hedonish talk to us about their work.
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It’s International Masturbation Day!
It’s International Masturbation Day and author Scotty Unfamous wants you to heaux it up. Ever tried humping a pillow or tickling a taint? This article will boredom-proof your solo sex practice as you celebrate an important tradition of the sex-positivity movement.
My Wife Prefers Her Vibrator
Wife Prefers Her Vibrator – “how do I get her to like me instead of the vibrator?”
Why Some Orgasms Are Out Of This World And Others Are Just So-So
Why is it that orgasms are like snowflakes – no two seem exactly the same? Kate Orson asks the experts.
3 Different Types of Vibrator For Men (Really)
When you read an article about male vibrators, the most commonly cited thing is a prostate massager. We’re so used to hearing ‘vibrator’ and thinking of something long, thin and insertable that something different doesn’t always cross our minds. But, just as the Scots have square sausage, so there’s more than one kind of vibrator for men.
3 Unusual Mutual Masturbation Tips
May is Masturbation Month! Our favourite month of the year. It means not only are we gifted with spring sunshine (well, we are at HO HQ in London, at any rate) we’re also gifted with an excuse to talk about our favourite topic – wanking – for over four weeks! To celebrate we wanted to share with you some of our top mutual masturbation tips.
Can Sex Toys Help With Erectile Dysfunction? JETT Worked For Me
Can sex toys help with erectile dysfunction? The JETT penis vibrator certainly helped with mine, says blogger Michael Knight.
Erotica Stories: Homologous
James Mycroft has written a few thoughtful, sexy guest posts for us over the past few months, on topics like submission and depression and sex as an extreme sport, but this is the first time he’s written full-on erotica.
Secrets Of A Hands-Free Orgasm
Hands-Free Orgasm. It sounds like the ultimate masturbation holy grail. Being able to kick back, browse porn or read erotica. Surely if it were easy, we’d all be doing it?
Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide
Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.
Sometimes Submitting In Bed Helps My Depression
Submitting in bed – There are many ways to manage depression. Here our newest guest blogger, James Mycroft, talks about one way that works for him.
PULSE: The Verdict – It’s Sensational!
One of the most stressful times for any sex toy company is shortly after a product has come out, when you’re waiting for the first reviews. And we were no different when we launched PULSE – the new, improved version of our award-winning guybrator. Would people like the upgraded version?
BDSM Community – How To Get Involved
If you want to get involved with the BDSM community, welcome! And here’s how to get started.
Masturbation Habits: Let’s Break The Taboo
Imagine if the overwhelming majority of people in the world enjoyed knitting. Let’s say 95% of men and 81% of women said they’d knitted during their lifetime, and most of them did it regularly. On average people knitted somewhere between 8 and 15 times each month. You’d expect us all to be talking about it quite a lot, right?
Demisexual Meaning – Am I Demisexual?
It’s more common than you think – the need to form a close emotional bond before having sex. Guest writer Lucas Jackman unpacks the meaning and identifying traits of demisexuality. Think you or someone you know might be demisexual? Read on.
THIS Cock Ring Took My Sex Life To The Next Level
Cock rings have the power to make you last longer AND come harder. Guest writer M. Christian gives the scoop on ATOM PLUS and what puts it leagues above the rest.
Our Survey Of Over-55s Smashes Stereotypes About Sex And Ageing
According to our sex and ageing survey, seniors experiment more with sex as they get older, are almost as happy with their sex lives as younger people, and often own more sex toys.
Coffee & Kink – Sex Blogging Saved My Soul
Being a member of a gender or sexual minority can be a lonely place. Most of us are raised with the belief, implicit or explicit, that matters of sexuality are things we do not talk about.
Tackling Sexual Shame – Reimagining Sexual Pleasure
Dr. Jane Fleishman weighs in on sexual shame. This article combines research with expert advice on how anyone can improve their relationship with their body and their sex life.
Masters of Sex: Why I took a year off sex blogging to go back to school
Former lawyer Mel from Voluptasse explains how she challenged academic snobbery by presenting an in-depth study of sex toys as part of her Masters degree – and discusses why sex bloggers might want to back up sex with scholarship.
How To Masturbate In Lockdown
Personal space has taken on a whole new importance in the time of coronavirus. If you’re finding it helpful but tricky to masturbate in lockdown, here are some strategies.
Top Sex Toys For Seniors – Suzanne Portnoy
One of the benefits of being a prolific sex blogger and erotic memoirist a decade ago was trying out the sex toys I was regularly sent by toy companies. Now that I don’t do so much writing, the gifts have stopped, but I still have quite an arsenal of equipment to add spice to my bedroom activities.
Orgasm Health Benefits: Nine Unexpected Reasons To Get Your ‘Vitamin O’
We all know orgasms are fun. But did you know they’re scientifically proven to be wholesome too?
Games To Play With Couples Sex Toys
It’s easy to fall into the trap of discussing sex toys in the kind of flowery language you’d use in a romance novel. Particularly when you’re talking about couples’ sex toys – they’re ‘sensual’ things, that you use to ‘seduce’ your partner.
What Is Non-binary?
Regardless of how you identify, your gender was assigned to you at birth – and you had no say in it. That’s why everybody benefits from a critical analysis of gender. Here is the first article in our 3-part NB series, but before we hop into pronouns – and into bed – let’s start with the basics. Series by guest author, Elliott Ennis.
5 Fun Facts You Didn’t Know About Porn
Fun. Ethical. Good for you! Could it be... porn? Resident blogger Queen P dishes up all the reasons you – and your partners – oughta feel great about enjoying erotic entertainment.
Best Adult Halloween Celebration Ideas
Want to know why you need to celebrate Halloween this year and need tips on how to enjoy this Halloween as an adult? You are in the right place!
Have Amazing Sex Without Penetration
What counts as sex? From the first kids who asked this question in the playground, to the sheepish couple trying to negotiate their way out of a train toilet without getting arrested, we’ve long been worried about a question that doesn’t really need an answer.
Sexless Marriage
We have been married 27 years, together for 30. We had a healthy sex life until a year and a half ago, when my husband stopped. No kissing, no touching. I tried to discuss this with him, and he said he needed to see a doctor. He never did. He seems to have zero interest in us as a couple. We are good friends.
What’s the Best Vibrating Cock Ring?
The humble cock ring is one of the cheapest, most popular and most effective sex toys for penis-owners and couples. Whether you want a cock ring in its most basic form to maintain erection or achieve a stronger one, or a full bells-and-whistles version to provide additional stimulation for both partners, the range available is enormous.
Situational ED: It’s Not Your Dick, It’s The Drugs
I have slept with a lot of men who have worried about their erections, and it’s time we talked about situational ED and drugs.
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BDSM & Kink
The Hot Octopuss BDSM Hub promotes BDSM as a healthy form of sexual expression. View our range of premium leather bondage gear and accessories.
Meet The Stigma-Busting Disabled Sex Bloggers
At Hot Octopuss we’ve been working closely with sex bloggers for over five years, and it’s been exciting in that time to watch more and more disabled sex bloggers, including those with chronic health conditions, join the community.
7 Random Facts About Brewer’s Droop
Temporary erectile dysfunction caused by alcohol – or ‘brewer’s droop’ – is something most men understand only too well. Overdoing the booze on a night out can mean a frustrating, horny evening once you’re home.
International Women’s Day: Each For Equal In The Adult Industry
The theme for this year’s International Women’s Day is ‘Each For Equal’ – underlining that our individual actions work towards (or against) equality. As a woman in the sex industry, I’m highlighting four key things people can do to contribute to this goal.
PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL DEMO
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BDSM Power Exchange
True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...
Queer, Trans & Non-Binary
Trans person walking in the rain with a rainbow umbrella.
What is ‘Drafting Season’?
Helping you keep up with dating trends, we look at drafting season
Solving The Mystery Of The G-spot
The Mystery of the G-spot: Wondering how to locate the G-spot in your partner or yourself? With the right information and tools, we think you’ll be pleased with what you find. The G-spot: maybe it’s not so elusive after all.
Childless Women & Sex: Unveiling Sexual Intimacy Realities
Delve into the multifaceted world of childlessness and its profound influence on sexual intimacy. Explore the emotional complexities, societal perceptions, and personal journeys that shape the sex lives of childless individuals. Gain a deeper understanding of desire, self-perception, and the unique challenges faced by those who embrace a childless path.
Happy Holidays from Hot Octopuss
At Hot Octopuss we believe in living life on your own terms – and that includes the holidays! Winter holidays can bring up all kinds of feelings, so we are extending a heartfelt wish that you’re able to celebrate in a way that genuinely brings you happiness. Here’s a look at the different ways our team members spend their holidays. From our homes to yours, we wish you a most festive season.
Loss of Clitoral Orgasm
I’m 65 and have had difficulty with clitoral orgasms all my adult life, but in the last six to seven months, it’s become almost impossible. The pandemic is not an issue – if anything, we are more sexually active than usual.
Top Anal Masturbation Tips
May is Masturbation Month! Which, for wankers like us, means we have an excuse to share with you some top anal masturbation tips. If you want to spend time exploring your body and experimenting with new ways to wank, this blog post is for you!
BDSM Communication: Older Person’s Guide to BDSM, Part 2
Older person’s guide to BDSM, Part 2 – Author M. Christian advises on communication and bondage for seniors exploring BDSM.
Non-binary Sex – An Intimacy Crash Course For NB Folks & Their Partners
For the final installation of our NB 101 series, guest author Elliott Ennis is going to give us a crash course in sexual intimacy. This article touches on the topics of support, communication, feelings, what to do when things go sideways, and what to do so things go right.
Butt Plugs For Beginners
Butt plugs can be a non-intimidating – and *very* fulfilling – component of anal play. In this article, author Queen P delivers her tried-and-true recommendations for selecting the right plug and lube, as well as tips for getting to know your new best friend.
PULSE DUO LUX – My First Experience With This Couple’s Toy
New toys can be intimidating, especially when exploring them with a partner. Fresh from the research lab is guest author, Sophia Reading. This article is packed with advice and experience to support your exploration into the wonderful world of couple’s sex toys.
Introducing the Hot Octopuss Pocket PULSE
One of the trickiest things about creating new sex toys is keeping the secret before they launch. For a few months now we’ve been hopping up and down to tell you about our newest product – Pocket PULSE – and today we’re allowed to tell you all about it!
Male Sex Toy Tips And Tricks
Usually when you get a new male sex toy, there’s that initial period of excitement where you just can’t put it down. Like other new additions to your ‘fun’ collection – Xboxes, new kitchen gadgets, subscriptions to Netflix – every evening you’re drawn to it until you get over that initial ‘newness’ and start taking it massively for granted.
Good Sex Tool: Touch Plus Imagery Sexercise
Neuroscientists have a saying that neurons (brain cells) that fire (get active) together wire (develop more connections) together. What that means is that the more we use our minds to make connections between pleasurable sensations and experiences, the more intense and pleasurable our erotic sensations can become.
Mutual Masturbation Tips For Couples
Ever thought about masturbating with your partner? While at first the idea can be surprising, couples often find that partnered masturbation comes quite naturally and adds an incredible dimension of hotness and closeness in the bedroom. Guest author M. Christian gives his top tips for couples exploring mutual masturbation.
The First Time You Use A New Sex Toy…
When your brand new sex toy arrives on your doorstep, what’s the first thing you do? Run inside and show your partner? Rip off the packaging eagerly and get started? Book out an hour or two in your diary to really get to grips with it?
Premature Ejaculation Training: Do Sex Toys Help?
If you’re here, chances are you’re worried about how quickly you ejaculate. Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual complaints among men, and if it bothers you then you’re definitely not alone.
8 Reasons To Try A Couples’ Sex Toy
If you’ve never tried a couples’ sex toy, then now is probably the perfect time to pick one up: we’ve just launched the next generation of our award-winning couples’ sex toy – the PULSE DUO LUX.
Who Do I Believe: My Husband or His Penis?
My husband says he still desires me sexually, but his penis says otherwise. It takes a lot of oral sex to get him aroused, and even then, his erection doesn’t last long enough for sex. It doesn’t seem worth the trouble to try to get him worked up enough for something to happen, so I usually pretend that I don’t notice his hints that he’s in the mood.
I Lose My Erection Without Manual Stimulation During Sex
I am a 73-year-old male with erection problems. I can enjoy sex with erections using Cialis and good lubrication, but I lose my erection quickly when either I or my wife stop the manual stimulation. It’s frustrating as I have to continue the manual stimulation — in other words, masturbation.
The Ultimate Guide To Outercourse
This Ultimate Guide to Outercourse will introduce you to one of pleasure’s undiscovered gems. We were only recently introduced to the word ‘outercourse’ (thanks, CNN!), and as it neatly describes one of our favourite kinds of sex, we thought we’d write a brief guide.
All the Different Ways I Tried To Come on SSRIs
In her first guest post for us, comedian Andrea Hubert described losing her orgasm when she went on antidepressants. Now she takes us through the gory details of how she got it back. Warning: perhaps best not to try some of these methods at home (but, er, definitely don’t do them in public either).
It’s Masturbation May And We’ve Got Some Celebrating To Do!
May is Masturbation Month and needless to say, it’s our FAVOURITE time of year. There are incredibly fun and rebellious ways to smash the stigma around masturbation while exploring new and fulfilling techniques for self-pleasure. Could your solo sex routing use some inspiration? Read on.
Male Vibrator Tips – Bringing A Male Vibrator Into Your Bedroom
Introducing your girlfriend or wife to your favourite sex toy can be a little tricky. Some women may feel threatened by the presence of a male vibrator in your bedroom. Others might not know how to use one, or worry that they’re not able to compete with the toy when it comes to giving you the most amazing orgasms. Well, we’re here to help.
Vaginismus: Interview With An Expert
Vaginismus is a condition that causes involuntary tightening of the pelvic floor muscles (or ‘kegels’), and it can make any kind of vaginal penetration difficult and painful.
What is a Cervical Orgasm?
The cervix is a lesser known pleasure point, often forgotten in the debate about whether the G-spot exists or not. Kate Orson tells you why it’s worth investigating the cervical orgasm.
7 Ways Straight People Can Celebrate Pride Month
Pride Month is here and it’s not just queer folx who are celebrating! Fresh from inside queer/trans/BIPOC land, I’ve bundled my best suggestions to fuel your fire for allyship and bring some sparkle into your June. Happy Pride!
Male Masturbators Don’t All Look Like Fleshlights
When you think of male masturbators, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Probably a long plastic container with a soft, textured sleeve inside – maybe modelled on the vagina or anus of your favourite porn star.
How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner: Part 2
How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner Pt. II: back by popular demand! Here’s Queen P’s definitive shopping guide, aka “How To Buy Your Girlfriend A Sex Toy She Actually Wants For Valentine’s Day.”
How To Choose The Best Male Sex Toy
The right sex toy is a decent investment. If you pick something awesome then chances are it’ll be by your side, in a drawer or proudly displayed on your bedside table, for a good long time. So what questions do you need to ask to make sure you choose the best male sex toy for you?
Date Night Doesn’t Work
How do you get your love life back when ‘date night’ is more likely to produce snoring than sex? We’re a couple in our 70s, and we’re struggling to avoid becoming like our friends, who tell us sex isn’t important to them anymore.
Why Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Orgasm – And What To Do About It
Ever wonder if your lady love is faking her orgasm? In this article guest writer, James Mycroft shines some light on the orgasm gap and what you can do in the bedroom to make her feel like the luckiest woman alive.
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9 Secret Tips Every Couple Must Try In Bed For Great Sex
Here are 9 awesome sex tips and toys that will set your bedroom (or wherever you choose to do it) on fire!
All tied up in knots?
Discover the captivating world of Shibari bondage with this beginner's guide. Whether you're curious about tying someone up, being tied up yourself, or simply here for engaging conversation, delve into the art and practice of Shibari. Learn what Shibari is, its origins, and its role in rope bondage. Explore the diverse reasons why people enjoy Shibari, from exploring desires to sensory experiences.
Happy National Sex Toy Day: Top Tips To Make Your Sex Toys Work For You
To celebrate National Sex Toy Day happening on 4th November, we asked our esteemed comedian guest writer Andrea to share some top tips on how to make your sex toys work for you… with some hilarious results.
Erection Problems
Erection problems or erectile dysfunction (ED) don't have to put a stop to a satisfying sex life. Hot Octopuss products could be the answer. Our range of penis toys can help you orgasm without an erection.
Foot Worship
Author M. Christian breaks down one of the most popular fetishes: foot worship. From boots to heels to bare feet, and from pedicures to BDSM scenes, this article covers it all. Want tips on how to tell your partner? You’ll find those in here too.
Interfering Family Won’t Give Me Privacy
I’m a widow, alone for the past five years. I moved in with my daughter’s family at the beginning of the pandemic so I could help teach and supervise my grandchildren while the parents worked. They think everything is going fine. I’m going nuts!
Years No Intercourse - Will it Hurt
After more than 15 years of no intercourse, will it hurt and what can I do that will help?
Edging With JETT
Edging with JETT – learn this advanced method of using penis vibrators to blow your orgasms right out of the water. Edging is a wild way to build intensity and overcome both premature and delayed ejaculation while having the strongest orgasms of your life. Authored by guest writer, M. Christian.
Kink Scenes – Top 3 Beginner Friendly Scenes
True or false: you can dress like a dad, be totally monogamous, have only vanilla sex, and still be kinky AF...
Porn Stars: Our Secret World with Hot Octopuss Sex Toy Designers
Leading sex toy design company Hot Octopuss will be featuring in the 3rd episode of 'Porn Stars: Our Secret World' airing on Monday 15th November on Channel 5
Hot Orgasm Tips For Guys
For most guys the way you orgasm, as well as the ease or strength of it, can change significantly over the years. At nineteen you may have been able to have an orgasm so powerful you punched holes in the drywall, but as you age there are lots of things that can affect the quantity and intensity of your orgasms.
Getting Started With BDSM: Older Person’s Guide
Author M. Christian delves into how BDSM can become an enjoyable part of anyone’s sexual activities, no matter their age or experience.
Finger Vibrator Reviews: Our Top Five DiGiT Posts So Far
Since our sleek and sexy DiGiT launched last month we’ve been eagerly watching the finger vibrator reviews come buzzing in. So what’s the testers’ verdict? Here are our top five reviews so far…
Show Stigma the Finger
We believe the world would be a better place if everyone enjoyed healthier and happier sex lives. The principal obstacles to that are the stigmas and taboos associated with sex and masturbation. We want you to join our movement and show us just how you feel about sexual oppression through stigmas and stereotypes.
Anal Sex For Beginners
For the newly initiated, anal sex can be just as scary as it is seductive. With the proper knowledge and preparation, anal sex can be approached with confidence and result in unbelievable pleasure for all parties involved. In this article, Queen P delivers a step-by-step guide to help newbies grow from nervous shy-babies into full-fledged booty queens.
5 Things You Didn’t Know About Masturbation
Flicking the bean. Busting a nut. Think you know everything about masturbation? Put your knowledge to the test with these fun and surprising findings by resident blogger, Queen P.
Improve Your Sex Life In 2021: Senior Sex New Year’s Resolutions
Improve Your Sex Life In 2021: Here are Joan Price’s top tips as well as input from readers like you!
Sex Robots: The Weird, Wonderful and WTF
You surely can’t have missed the recent news that the world’s first commercial sex robot is now on the market. The Guardian reported thoroughly on Harmony – a placid, realistic-looking humanoid who apparently can do more than your average robot.
Unusual Sexy Christmas Gifts For Your Loved One's
‘Tis the season… to feverishly google for hours in search of presents your loved ones might actually like. It can be particularly tough if you’re looking for a sexy gift for a partner you’ve been with for a while. You’ve been through the obvious already – but you still want to make them feel special. Here are our top suggestions.
Top Video Games For Couples And Unexpected Ways To Improve Your Relationship
Video games have millions of fans all over the world and are becoming more popular during quarantine. You might be surprised to learn that the best video games for couples can help you save your love. Find out everything about it in our article.
Mental Health Benefits Of Masturbation
When it comes to mental health, some wellbeing practices are more enjoyable than others. Let’s take a look at one of our favourites: masturbation. Solo sex can be an exciting and pleasurable way to boost your brain and elevate your mood. Go on, have a wank. It’s good for you!
Unusual Masturbation Tips: Do Try This At Home
There are plenty of magazine columnists ready to offer you sex tips, from the sublime to the utterly ridiculous, like Cosmo’s infamous ‘put a doughnut on his penis then eat it off’ advice. There aren’t as many willing to offer unusual masturbation tips – especially if you’ve got a dick.
BDSM Troubleshooting – How To Be A Good Dom
Let’s be real: if you’re experimenting with BDSM, you’re going to run into problems. This is a sign that you’re learning and growing! The good news is that you’re not alone. In all likelihood, what you’re going through has been experienced by others (who’ve lived to tell the tale!) Below are common issues that kinksters have historically run into... and the ways in which they kicked those issues’ asses.
Why I’m Not Settling For OK Orgasms Anymore
Think vulva orgasms begin and end with the clit? Think again! Guest writer Sophia Reading offers an insightful and practical guide to exploring the G-spot solo and as a couple.
Male Sex Toys: The BDSM Possibilities
When we say ‘BDSM sex toys’, most people’s first thoughts are of whips and chains. Bondage restraints, floggers, canes: anything that’s used to cause sexy pain or hold your submissive in position.
What Does ‘Good In Bed’ Mean Post Menopause?
When a woman tells me a partner is ‘really good in bed’, I always wonder what that actually means for her, especially as this often changes after menopause.
Black Friday Male Sex Toys for Hands Free Orgasms & Ejaculate Like A Pro
Hands-on masturbation is overrated. So, if you want to experience a cross-eyeing, hands-free ejaculation, read on. It’s time to go pro and cum like never before with the handy hands-free ejaculation toys and techniques we’ll be sharing below.
Designing The World’s Most Powerful Cock Ring
With most cock rings, the wearer benefits most from the product, with little focus being given to the partner. We wanted to create a true couples’ toy that would be as intense for the partner as the wearer.
Celebrate National Couples Day With 5 Best Sex Positions That are Even Hotter with Toys
Today is National Couple’s Day – the perfect time to celebrate with your partner in crime, your ride or die, your pain in the…well, you know what we mean (wink wink). Why not spice things up with these 5 best sex positions which are even better with toys?
Surprising Facts About The Penis
It’s time we give the finger to the limiting – and outdated – beliefs about the penis. Here are the must-know facts for every penis owner who wants to level up their confidence and sex life. Article by guest writer, M. Christian.
‘There Is No Word For It’ – On Language, Sex And Gender Diversity
Serge Nicholson, Sex and Relationship Therapist, on how trans and non-binary people can talk about their bodies when the traditional terms don’t fit, and ways to add gender diversity to traditional sex toy marketing.
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Porn You Can Feel Good About
You may have heard the buzz about Pornhub removing 80% of its content due to controversy around its contributors. Author Queen P delivers the lowdown on the practices of the adult film industry and gives her top resources for the most erotic, raw, and all-around good vibes porn you can feel good about.
Have You Considered These Prostate Cancer Sex Aids?
When we talk about sex after prostate cancer, a lot of the discussion is focused on the physical things: whether you can get or maintain an erection, or changes in sensation or ejaculation. So discussing prostate cancer sex aids, there’s a temptation to focus purely on the physical sensation – on toys like PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which men can use to ejaculate even when flaccid.
How To Buy A Sex Toy For Your Partner
Vibrators, cock rings, bondage cuffs, oh my! The decision to buy a sex toy for a partner can be thrilling... and nerve wracking. In this article, Queen P gives some pro tips on how to gift your partner a sex toy that they’ll use and love.
Surprising Facts About The Clit
The clitoris: is it a myth, a mystery . . . or a carnivorous plant? We searched far and wide for the most interesting and least-known facts about the clit. Curious to learn more about the only body part whose exclusive purpose is to provide pleasure? Go on, read it.
How To Use Anal Toys
It’s Anal August and if you don’t know what that means, well we’re here to tell you! Anal August is a month dedicated to exploring the universal orifice that is the anus! Whether you’re a newbie to this precious little cavity or you’ve been putting god-knows-what up your butt since day one, we have some hot tips on how to use anal toys from our guest writer Queen P!
How To Support Your Bisexual Partner (who everyone assumes is straight)
Many folks have bisexual partners and unfortunately, this part of their identity often gets pushed to the back burner. In this article, author Sophia Reading delivers clear and insightful action steps for people who want to be more supportive of their bisexual/pansexual partners.
7 Moves To Up Your Blowjob Game
If you’re dating a penis-owner, chances are, they want a blow job. But what if you don’t like performing oral sex or you just don’t know what to do? Here are field-tested tips for your inspiration and experimentation. Article by resident author, Queen P.
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Cock Cameras, Sexy Selfies, and Other DIY Porn
Last weekend saw the return of the ETO Show – an event run by the UK sex industry’s ETO Magazine, where sex toy inventors, lube wizards and other adult industry folks gathered to show off their wares.
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Death Grip Masturbation And Other Search Stories
If you’ve never delved into Google Analytics for a sex website before, then you’ve not lived. Somewhere deep in the console which tells us boring yet important things (how many people read this blog, where people tend to come from to buy our awesome sex toys, etcetera) there is info that tells a much more interesting story.
What Is Delayed Ejaculation?
You’ve probably heard of premature ejaculation – whether it’s creams and condoms designed to numb the penis to hold back orgasm, or simply stories of occasions when sex has ended all-too-quickly. But what about delayed ejaculation? When you struggle to orgasm – during sex or masturbation – and find you’re exhausted long before you reach the desired climax?
Masturbation Techniques: Breaking The ‘Death Grip’
Ever heard of the ‘death grip’, especially in relation to masturbation? It’s a term coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage in his column Savage Love, and it refers to the method where – to put it bluntly – you squeeze your dick as hard as possible to try and maximise the sensations.
Sex For Anxiety And Depression
While your doctor might not exactly prescribe sex as a treatment for anxiety and depression... we think it’s great! Plenty of studies demonstrate the mental and emotional benefits of sexual activity. Guest writer Sherrylsworld breaks it down with actionable tips that you can try, well, right now if you want to!
DiGiT Sex Toy Design: Creating The Perfect Finger Vibe
We launched DiGiT, our first wearable finger vibe that puts orgasms at your fingertips. The latest in cutting-edge sex toy design, DiGiT curves seamlessly around your fingers like a custom piece of jewellery to become an extension of your body.
Impact Play And Power Exchange: Older Person’s Guide To BDSM Part 3
Impact Play and Power Exchange: In part three of his Senior BDSM series, author M. Christian advises on the risks and pleasures of impact play, role-play, and power exchange.
New Sexual Pleasures For The Penis
Greetings, my fellow possessors of a particular. anatomical appendage! If you don’t mind, I’d like to ask you something: what’s the first thing that comes to mind when I say sex?
Pleasure Rebels
Pleasure Rebels is a weekly podcast by Hot Octopuss hosted by Kelly Gordon that talks about sex, sexuality, disability, gender and how to have better sex.
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Kelly Gordon is Hot Octopuss' sex and disability lead. She advises the business and its customers on the best ways to enjoy great sex. Ensuring disability is no barrier to pleasure.
How To Enhance Your Orgasm Zones
By adding simultaneous stimulation to more genital regions to the mix, a wider area of the brain’s genital sensation center is activated, creating more intense sensations as they blend and combine, enhancing our sexual experience and increasing our orgasmic potential.
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Zentai is an agender, submissive switch who specializes in extreme play. This is their biography. Say hello and ask a question.
PULSE & Disability – How It Works
PULSE DUO and PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL have a unique design that specifically combats sexual dysfunction in patients with physical or neurological disabilities without the need for health practitioner intervention.
Using Hands-Free Sex Toys For Pegging
According to Google Trends, there’s been a threefold increase in searches for ‘pegging’ in the last few years – and interest in pegging shows no sign of slowing down. Perhaps partly because people are becoming more open about exploring their kinks, and partly thanks to an increase in pop culture references to pegging – like that one hot scene in Deadpool.
Joan Price On Her ‘Completely Real And Unscripted’ Film, ‘Guide To Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’
We’ve been working with senior sex educator Joan Price for several years and have learned so much about becoming a more inclusive sex toy company from her. This year she’s been extremely busy, not only with her usual work talking out loud about senior sex, but with a new book, Sex After Grief, and ‘Guide To Wicked Sex: Senior Sex’, a film she made with sex educator and porn performer jessica drake. With both launching this month, we caught up with her to find out more.
2021 Sex Positive Manifest-heaux
Calling all self-proclaimed sluts and sex positivists! Let’s make 2021 our heaux-iest year yet. Author Shakira Scott pens an inspiring Manifest-heaux for those of us who aspire to slut it up in the year ahead. (Pro tip: You’ll probably want a pen, paper, and a bottle of bubbly handy.)
Anti-Valentine’s Day – How To Be Single On February 14th
Single on Valentine’s Day, or part of a blissfully rebellious relationship? Anti-Valentine’s Day can be a hell of a good time! Both single and coupled folks are lifting their glasses to this new tradition of reclaiming February 14th. It’s a way of giving a big ‘fuck you’ to overpriced chocolates and lingerie that your girlfriend doesn’t actually want. Instead, let’s give a big thumbs up to doing whatever we damn well please on this special day.
Ask Zentai: How do I come out as a chastity bottom?
How do I make known my status as a submissive omega chastity bottom? I love being the last on the list with a tiny nubbed dicklet. But how do I accept myself enough to reveal my truth in public?
Rimming, Rim Jobs, Eating Ass: You Got This!
Your Heaux Fairy Godmother Scotty Unfamous returns with a rimming field guide unlike any other. If ever you had a question about the *proper* way to lick a booty hole, you’ll find the answer here.
The ATOM PLUS Cock Ring, Sex Weasels, Battery-Charged Frogs and Our Weirdest Review Ever
We love Violet Fenn’s brilliant sex writing, particularly when she’s educating the mainstream via Metro UK about the joys of such niche sexual activities as sounding, electro sex and alien egg-laying dildos.
Bisexual or Bi-Curious? We got you
Bisexual: “the potential to be attracted to more than one gender.” If you’re bi or questioning here are some resources to support your journey. Let’s put an end to bi-erasure (and start feeling good about what we wank off to!) Article by M. Christian.
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International Women’s Day
Wishing a very merry International Women’s Day to all self-identified women! And giving a little extra squeeze to nonbinary friends who may mistakenly be shouted out by *sigh* well-meaning individuals. Those of us who don’t identify as female still appreciate, honour, and even geek out on the resilience and triumphs of the women in our lives. Without any further ado, here’s an inspiring interview with our founder, Julia Margo.
Best Sex Life: How To Have Messy, Cathartic, Soul-Cleansing Sex On The Regular
Are you having the best sex of your life? Spoiler: the answer’s probably No. In this article, our resident blogger Jam shows you exactly how to vanquish any blockages and start having your best sex life today.
Boring Sex Begone!
Our newest writer makes a splash with this hard-hitting article on boring sex. Written with long term relationships in mind, this article delivers advice and concrete steps that you can take to start having a better sex life . . . tonight! Behold, guest author Sophia Reading’s take on banishing boring sex for good.
Sex With Vaginismus (When You Don’t Even Know You Have It)
Sex blogger Petra Pan on undiagnosed vaginismus and the impact on your sex life.
How To Get Started With Kink
Whether you’ve had kinky fantasies as far back as you can remember or you just want to try something new, everyone’s got to start somewhere when it comes to exploring their darker desires. But where? We asked some committed kinksters how they made their BDSM debuts. Also see our recommended resources at the end.
How Soon After Giving Birth Can I Have Sex?
There are few events that have as transformative an effect on your body as giving birth, and yet it’s a occurrence that’s not just commonplace in society but expected of most with a womb and vagina
BDSM Problems – When Things Don’t Go As Planned
Chances are if you’ve tried something new, whether in the dungeon or the bedroom, you’re no stranger to the above statements. In all reality, new scenes rarely go as planned. Here are some tips for navigating BDSM problems.
G-Spot Toys: Should I Buy One For My Partner?
If your partner has expressed desire to explore G-spot stimulation, then the answer is simple: you should most definitely buy her a G-spot toy. But if either of you have any apprehension, we’ll address that in this article. Read on to bust the myths and learn how to pick out the very best G-spot toys for your lucky lady.
Masturbation Tips For Men With Mobility Issues
Mobility issues can make it difficult – or sometimes impossible – to masturbate independently. Yet as a society we’re rubbish at talking about it – sex and masturbation tips in magazines often focus on the incredibly flexible or the downright superhuman.
Being Single: How To Kick Ass At Being Single
Being single: while we’re not going to pretend like it’s easy – especially during lockdown – it is possible for singledom to be a time of great value. Resident blogger Queen P offers some friendly guidance on how to get the most out of flying solo.
Prostate Stimulation For Newbies
Prostate stimulation can provide loads of pleasure for men and other AMAB folx. This hot button offers a satisfying solution for those with erectile dysfunction and for penis owners determined to crack the nut of multiple orgasms. Check out this article by Queen P for beginner-friendly tips and tricks that will set you up for butt stuff bliss.
What’s The Sexiest Gift You’ve Given (Or Received)?
We’re a sentimental lot here at Hot Octopuss HQ. When Christmas comes around we’re not just here to help you choose a great sexy gift or recommend cool Christmas nights out, we’re also keen to hear your own stories.
Chronic Pain And Sex – Solutions For A Blissful Love Life
Chronic pain and sex? No need to despair! While living with chronic pain is no cakewalk, it doesn’t have to be the end of your sex life. With the right tools, support, and mindset, one can discover creative solutions and breathe new life into the bedroom.
Ask Zentai: Prostate Stimulation & KURVE
KURVE sounds like it could be an interesting prostate massager/p-spot stimulator for guys in the same way the tip “smooshes” out flat. I’m wondering if it had the reach/length so-to-speak to be able to do that where the average guy’s prostate is a few inches inside their bum…
Sex After Lockdown
So… can we f*ck yet? Guest author Scotty Unfamous has a field guide for heuxs who are re-entering the wild world of casual-ish sex. In this article we’ll dive into risk assessment, best practices, and what to do if you’ve forgotten how to sex. Go on, get that nut.
How To Talk Dirty (Even If You’re Nerdy)
Dirty talk can crank up the heat in the bedroom – well, as long as you can get past the awkward part. Guest writer Sophia Reading cooked up a beginner’s guide to dirty talk, especially for grown-up geeks. Go on, you naughty wizard – talk nerdy to me.
How To Celebrate National Orgasm Day
National Orgasm Day happens every year on July 31. This year, it falls on a Saturday, so really there’s no reason why you couldn’t celebrate all day — or all weekend even. We won’t judge! Here are a few fun ideas of how to celebrate National Orgasm Day.
All About PULSE SOLO INTERACIVE: Hot Octopuss’s Mind-blowing App-controlled New Sex Toy
Meet Hot Octopuss's new toy - PULSE SOLO INTERACTIVE, a bluetooth hands-free penis vibrator. This penis vibrator makes long distance remote control and adult content sync easier than ever.
Best Sex Toy Deals Black Friday & Cyber Monday 2023
Enjoy Hot Octopuss's best Black Friday sex toy sales; shop direct from Hot Octopus to ensure you get the best deals. Grab a bargain or two now before you miss out. Have fun!
Secretary Movie Review
Long before 50 Shades of Grey there was Secretary, the 2002 film based on a short story written by Mary Gaitskill in 1988. And yes, the main character’s name is Mr. Grey. Nineteen years and a lifetime of sexcapades after my first viewing, I rewatched the film. My objective: to analyze it from a grown-ass kinky adult perspective. Did the second viewing of this movie make my inner sadist facepalm with disappointment or inspire me to dig out the toy box with glee? Here are my thoughts on the infamous BDSM film, Secretary.
Husband Gets Off by Himself, Doesn’t Want Me
I am 66 and my husband is 67. We married four years ago after being together just six months, but I felt I knew him, and he was a kind, genuine person. Sex was good for the first year, but since then, he hasn’t wanted to have sex with me. He is always watching pornos. He always did watch porn – he told me so.
I Cannot Imagine Life Without Orgasms
I am 58. For six years after my husband died, I did not have sex with anyone. I masturbated and reached orgasm with no problem. I felt like I was too overweight to be with a new man. Then I lost weight and felt really good about myself.
How To Clean Your Sex Toys
A survey by adult superstore Adam & Eve has revealed that only 57 per cent of men clean their sex toys every time they use them, and more than a third never clean their sex toys at all. The figures for those identifying as female are better, but still not ideal: 70 per cent clean their toys after every use, but 19 per cent take the ‘come as you are’ approach.
Hot Octopuss Review of the Month: Sex Toys Over 50
Following last month’s awesome ATOM PLUS review from Violet Fenn, which got a great response when we republished it on our blog, we’ve decided to start sharing more of the amazing reviews we get for our products here. Today we’re sharing a review of PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL from Amazon that talks about using sex toys over 50.
Gay Man in India: Am I Exploiting Lonely Men?
I am a 60-year-old man who enjoys the company of senior men over 75. Being in India where homosexuality awareness is still in its early stages, few gay men of 75+ are aware that they are gay. Others suppress themselves due to religious and social skewed teachings. Hence it remains very difficult to find a partner here.
Seek Woman for Cuddling and Cunnilingus
I’m 75 years old and have had only one erection in 10 years. Yet I would love to meet women, any age, for friendship and sex. To me, sex is touching, kissing, cunnilingus, fondling, laughing, and enjoying things together.
Andrew Gurza Tries PULSE
Disability campaigner Andrew Gurza writes breathtakingly honest and insightful pieces for Huffington Post and other platforms about his experience of being a queer disabled man navigating sex and relationships. When we became aware of his work we immediately wanted to send him PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, which was designed to be useful for some people with mobility issues. He said he’d love to try it. This was his experience.
World BDSM Day – History And Short-Notice Ways To Celebrate
We just found out it’s World BDSM Day. Aside from self-flagellating because we didn’t know it existed until now, we’ve also been investigating where the day came from and thinking about ways to celebrate at short notice. So here are our findings:
Halloween’s Top Sex Scenes In Horror Movies
There’s a famous psychological experiment which explored the link between fear and sexual arousal. A female researcher stood on two different bridges – one a scary, wobbly suspension bridge and the other a much more solid bridge, which wouldn’t induce fear responses when people walked across.
5 Tips For When You’re Too Tired for Sex
Xennials have a running joke that we’re always tired. Our exhaustion is driven by the fact that we feel old, we’re working too many hours, and “adulting” is harder than we thought it would be. This constant low-grade tiredness stops us from doing what we want to do. Like have sex with our gorgeous partners.
Top 10 Weird Amazon Sex Toy Reviews
Amazon is a whirling vortex of sex toy horror stories if you look closely. We wouldn’t recommend buying your sex toys on Amazon as a matter of course – often the products themselves aren’t exactly what you expect, and there are many sellers who are offering things made from questionable materials.
Worst DIY Sex Toy Fails
Let’s face it, the words ‘DIY’ and ‘sex toy’ go together about as well as ‘vodka’ and ‘snowboarding.’ The two should never mix, and you can guarantee that if they do someone’s going to get seriously hurt. But that doesn’t stop some people from pressing on regardless.
Great Sex, But No Intercourse
My wife and I, late 60s, married almost 48 years, have had no intercourse for years but do have a very active sex life in spite of that. About five years ago my wife’s vagina became so tight it was almost impossible to enter and uncomfortable for both of us.
What do you do when your brain says yes to sex but your body says no?
When blogger Zec Richardson became disabled, his first concern wasn’t that he could no longer walk. It was: ‘What about sex?”. He shares his best tips for keeping the flame burning.
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What Kind Of Guy Is Into Pegging?
Axel runs The School Of Squirt along with his partner Laura, where the pair teach how to achieve female ejaculation as part of a healthy, fulfilling and exciting sex life. Axel’s interests extend beyond just amazing sex, into health, psychology and yoga. Here, exclusively for Hot Octopuss, he discusses just how great pegging can be for men in heterosexual partnerships.
Why Can’t I Orgasm after Hysterectomy?
I’m 56. About 10 years ago I had a full hysterectomy. Since then, I get all the arousal feelings, but I can’t actually orgasm. Before the operation I achieved orgasm easily and enjoyed a healthy sex life. Now I’m just left frustrated.
Hot Octopuss Celebrates International Day of People With Disabilities (#IDPWD)
At Hot Octopuss to celebrate International Day of People With Disabilities (#IDPWD), we are so excited to share the stories of disabled people and their journey with dating and relationships as told by them, starting with our very our Creative Director Kelly Gordon.
Weird and Wonderful Male Sex Toys
We talk a lot about the future of sex toys, partly because we’re nerdy and curious about when our sexy robotic overlords will take over. But also because we live in exciting times for sex toys – new channels of distribution mean that great sex toy ideas aren’t limited to the big companies.
Penis Vibrators: A Great Sex Toy Review
We love it when people send us their sex toy reviews of the PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL or PULSE DUO. Whether they’re explaining how the toy helped them orgasm when flaccid, telling us how they used it to have incredible non-penetrative sex with a partner, or even just giving us a nice new comparison for what it looks like (‘Darth Vader’s helmet, anyone?).
Disability & Sex Stigma
Leandra Vane is a sexuality writer and speaker – her groundbreaking blog The Unlaced Librarian covers body identity, relationship styles, sex and disability, kink and book reviews.
His Orgasm Takes Forever
I’m 72. My husband of 50 years has trouble maintaining an erection. He desperately wants to orgasm, but it takes a lot of work on my part to get him there. We tried various sex toys, but nothing helps. His issues could be due to medications he's taking. Sex has become no fun. Help!
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Good Erections, but No Orgasm
I am 58 and enjoy sex with my wife. I take Viagra to get a good erection. For the last three weeks, I’ve had a good erection but no orgasm. After 30 minutes my body tires out and I stop.
How Do I Meet Single Women During Covid-19?
I’m 63, and my parents, age 96 and 91, live with me. I feel especially isolated during this pandemic, having very little social contact with anyone else. I would really like to at least be able to talk with a woman who doesn’t have a partner. But how?
No Orgasm During Intercourse: Am I Deficient?
I was hoping my friend with benefits would become my boyfriend, but he told me that he’s not interested in romance because I don’t have an orgasm during intercourse. He said it just doesn’t feel right, and he needs a woman who knows how to get off.
Partner has Peyronie's Disease
My 60-year-old partner has Peyronie’s disease. It developed two years ago. The extensive bend caused him pain, and he was unable to masturbate or have intercourse. He became depressed.
Celebrate International Fetish Day - Learn BDSM & Best Free Resources
Celebrate International Fetish Day 2022 on 21st Jan; learn about the BSDSM lifestyle and all the best free resources with Hot Octopuss
Anal Sex – Here’s Absolutely Everything You Need to Know
So you’ve heard about anal play and you even got curious a bit, but people say all kinds of things about anal play. Let’s get some myths out of the way to make you more comfortable!
77-Year-Old Man: Should I Marry A 30-Year-Old Woman?
I’m 77 and seeing a woman age 30. We are serious and thinking about marriage. But should I marry a 30-year-old woman? What are some things I need to consider?
Toys for Flaccid Penis?
I’m 68, impotent from prostate cancer for 12 years, and a widower for two. My only regular release is via masturbation. I’ve been frustrated by the lack of sex toys for men with my condition. Which of Hot Octopuss toys work while completely flaccid?
Sex with ED after Prostate Surgery
After a 37-year relationship that was full of abuse and violence, I have an amazing new partner who is gentle and caring. He had his prostate removed due to cancer and no longer has erections. He believes he has nothing to offer me due to his ED after prostate surgery. I feel he is scared and vulnerable.
Young Man Desires Much Older Woman
I’m only in my early 30s, but I’m sexually attracted to women 30 years older or more. I am attracted to their softer breasts, and their maturity is a huge turn-on. I tend to have better, deeper conversations with older women.
Husband Has No Interest In Sex And Won’t Talk About It
My husband has no interest in sex and no interest in me physically anymore. We’re married 34 years and two years ago I found out he was looking at porn. At the time I’d had pelvic surgery and couldn’t have sex.
What Will Define The Best Sex Toys 2016?
It used to be the case that sex toys were considered worthwhile if they got you off. A useful trick, sure, but a pretty low bar to set.
A New Focus on Pleasure as We Age
Major studies recently concluded that we are having less sex than we were a decade ago. Is it true? Read on to find out more.
Erotica Stories ‘Hands-Free Orgasm’ by F. Leonora Solomon
So we were contacted by the wonderful erotica writer F. Leonora Solomon. She met our CEO, Adam, when we exhibited at the New York Sexual Health Expo. She was so intrigued by our toy, she wondered if we could work together in some way. We obviously couldn’t turn an offer like that down!
Sex Toys For Perimenopause
Changes to libido and sexual response are normal during perimenopause. Pleasure products can help. Nicci Talbot shares her top sex toys for perimenopause.
How to Use Anal Toys
It's Anal August, so here are some beginner and more advanced pointers for you all.
How To Reduce Stress – While Enjoying Yourself
It’s Stress Awareness Month, and one of the most enjoyable, natural ways to reduce stress is with sex. So we’ve pulled up some expert opinions on the subject to help us develop some guidelines on how to access the stress-relieving properties of sexual activity.
‘You guys get paralysed men!’ – an ex-soldier tries PULSE
One of the best things about working at Hot Octopuss is hearing from disabled customers who’ve found PULSE enhances their sex lives. We got this email from Jon, a former US soldier and paraplegic gay guy, and we were so chuffed to read it we got his permission to share it here. Be warned, it’s not quite NSFW!
Six Best Valentine’s Sex Positions & Toys That Lead to More Orgasms
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I’m here to suggest some sex position and toy pairings for a deliciously good time with maximum pleasure and endless orgasms.
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Unleash Your Inner Goddess with Vulva Exploration
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Sex and Spinal Cord Injury: The Story of PULSE
We were catching up with Alix Fox’s brilliant ‘Close Encounters’ podcast recently when one story really stood out. Simon, one of Alix’s interviewees, talked about his experiences with spinal cord injury and how his injuries had affected his sex life.
Leandra Vane on Orgasm Hunting With Nerve Damage
Leandra Vane, otherwise known as The Unlaced Librarian, wrote an excellent blog for us about disability and sex stigma a couple of years ago. Now she’s about to relaunch her website, we’re delighted to have her guest posting for us again. Leandra has nerve damage in over half her body, but she still loves having orgasms.
12 unusual myths about the penis: fact or fiction?
Ready for some hard facts? Well, not to sound cocky or anything, but we’ve done the penis research so that you don’t have to!
13 Things Everybody With A Clit Needs To Try At Least Once
The clitoris is an amazing creation. It’s bigger than most people think, and the only body part whose exclusive purpose is to derive pleasure. Discover ways to celebrate, build relationship with the power of the clitoris.
Accessible Sex Toys: How Can The Sex Toy Industry Be More Inclusive?
It’s Sexual Health Week 2019, and the focus is on relationships, sex and disability. At Hot Octopuss we believe sexual expression and pleasure is a basic human right, whatever your ability.
Kelly Gordon: Best Accessible Sex Toys
Kelly Gordon’s personal mission is to bust the myth that disabled people are sexually limited. After trying as many products as she can get her hands on, she reveals her favourite accessible sex toys.
Best Men’s Sex Toy: Everyone’s Talking About…
It’s been quite a week for us at Hot Octopuss HQ – love is in the air around Valentine’s Day, so suddenly everyone’s buzzing about sex toys – and PULSE DUO in particular. Naturally we’re delighted to be recommended as one of the best men’s sex toys, and alongside the reviews there have been some great discussion pieces that help to challenge the stigma that’s often attached to men’s sex toys.
JETT vs PULSE – Which Do I Choose?
Torn between JETT and PULSE? How can two penis toys be so very different? Here to walk you through the exciting journey of becoming a penis toy owner is guest author, M. Christian.
Innovative sex and masturbation machines
Housing one of the world’s largest collections of sex and masturbation machines, it’s hard to believe that the Sex Machines Museum in Prague only has 3.5 stars on TripAdvisor. Maybe a few people got thrown out after getting too personal with the contraptions, and have decided to take it out on the museum’s ratings.
Three is the magic number: Next generation PULSE out now!
We’ll jump straight to the headlines – PULSE SOLO ESSENTIAL, the latest version of our award-winning sex toy, is out now! Featuring magnetic charging, a turbo function, and much more besides. If you’ve been waiting for the right moment to try PULSE, now’s your chance to be one of the first to own the new, improved version.
Challenging the stigma of sex toys for men
Let’s face it, there are far more shocking things to find in your partner’s bedside drawer: a copy of Nigel Farage’s autobiography, perhaps, or some woefully bad love poems. Yet despite this, there is still a stigma attached to sex toys for men.
The Only Foreplay Secret You Need To Know
Want to become a master of foreplay? Feel like you need to brush up on – or level up – your foreplay skills? Well, while you’ll find a host of websites promising you Ten Foreplay Tips To Drive Her Wild In Bed or Six Foreplay Secrets Only Sexperts Know, we’re just here to give you the only foreplay secret that matters.
Penis Vibe Tips: ED, Nipple Play and More
Recently we published a post rounding up some top tips for using our new JETT penis vibe. One of the things we love most about a new sex toy launch is hearing all the different ways people have put our unique sex toys to use, and thanks to amazing bloggers and reviewers, there are plenty of top penis vibrator tips to help you get to grips with your new purchase.
Desire In The Time Of Coronavirus
Self-isolation should mean more time for sex and orgasms right? Vibrator sales have rocketed, and there are jokes about the birth rate increasing. But, asks Kate Orson, are people really experiencing more pleasure?
How To Talk About Sex Toys With A Partner
We call them “sex toys,” but vibrators and other pleasure stimulators are far more than “toys,” especially for seniors. They’re orgasm tools.
How To Eat Pussy
Chances are if your partner has a vulva, they’d like you to put your mouth on it. Many a crime has been forgiven, and many an argument thwarted, by the power of cunnilingus. Lifehack: if you are a generous vulva-whisperer, you’ll probably receive more oral sex too!
How Sex Tech Can Help Us Deal With Social Isolation
Author M.Christian on how sex tech like VR porn and teledildonics can help us deal with social isolation and offer not just a distraction from stress but a unique opportunity for sexual exploration.
How To Get More Blowjobs
You get a BJ! And YOU get a BJ! And you ALL get BJs! Guest writer – and gold star long-term relationship holder – Sophia Reading gives deep insight into how you can get more blowjobs from your beloved.
PULSE: The Verdict – It’s Sensational!
One of the most stressful times for any sex toy company is shortly after a product has come out, when you’re waiting for the first reviews. And we were no different when we launched PULSE III – the new, improved version of our award-winning guybrator. Would people like the upgraded version?
Sex Only Two Or Three Times In Ten Years!
My husband stopped having sex with me the day we got married. I am a 49-year-old woman who married an affectionate, caring man ten years ago, after living together for a year and a half. At times, he was emotionally abusive with angry episodes. Outside of those, he is physically affectionate, kissing and cuddling me — yet our marriage has been sexless other than two or three times in ten years. I feel rejected and lonely, and I crave sexual intimacy.
How Masturbation Can Reduce Burnout
How masturbation can reduce burnout, relieve stress and leave space for personal growth
How Often Should I Masturbate?
'How often should I masturbate?' is one of the most frequently googled questions about self-pleasure, so people are clearly concerned about it. But should they be?
Hot Octopuss Heads To International Lingerie Show in Vegas
The Hot Octopuss team is heading to the International Lingerie Show in Las Vegas this week to showcase PULSE for the very first time.
Unique Sex Toys For The 21st Century
More of us are bringing sex toys into our bedrooms than ever before, and according to research done by Channel 4 in the UK, sex toys are the country’s most popular ‘fetish’.
Kelly Perks-Bevington: Being A Disabled Girl On Tinder
It’s Kelly Perks-Bevington again… I wrote about sex and my disability for Hot Octopuss a few months ago and they’ve asked me back for a second piece. This time it’s a little different, and a little unexpected! This blog is all about re-entering the world of dating, and dating as a disabled woman. I’m not going to bore you with my relationship status but lets just say… ‘It’s complicated’.
91-Year-Old Widow Seeks Live Guy
I want a guy who is not just breathing but alive. Most men even close to my age are so far over the hill they can’t remember where the hill was.
National Orgasm Day: How Orgasms Change As You Get Older
Orgasms change as you get older. But, says Joan Price in this piece for National Orgasm Day, they can be richly satisfying with the right stimulation and an open mind.
The Benefits Of Polyamory
Polyamory: is it a godsend or a ticking time bomb? Author Lucas Jackman gives a no-nonsense approach to evaluate the pros and cons of non-monogamous lifestyles. Read on to find out if polyamory might be a good option for you.
Let’s Watch Sexy Movies Again!
When we were younger, we’d watch sexy movies together. Now we’re in our 70s and I’d like to go back to watching porn together. We still enjoy sex, although I have ED. We love to touch (and suck on) each other. We’ve tried some toys, too.
Senior Sex 2020 Roundup
Ready for 2021 yet? At Hot Octopuss one of the highlights of 2020 was the launch of our Senior Sex Hub. Before we go racing into the new year, resident sexpert Joan Price gives a roundup of the most popular writings from the senior sex blog and advice column.
Christmas Gifts For the BDSM Fan in Your Life
Next up in our ‘Christmas gift guide’ series we’re dealing with gifts for BDSM fans. The first in the series tackled Christmas gifts for the porn lover in your life – whether it’s a gift subscription for him to use on his favourite site or a pair of wireless headphones as a gift for her so she can watch her favourite films without disturbing the neighbours.
We Can’t Talk About Sex!
I’ve never been able to tell a woman what I like and not be embarrassed about it. The way I was raised, even the natural pleasure of touching myself was looked down upon. Now at 54, it’s not that easy to make my 29-year marriage better or know if I should just get out of it. She wasn’t even sexual when we got married so I don’t know what her deal is.
No Sex All Year – What Should We Do?
I am 50 and she is 59. We’ve been married for two years. At first, we had sex all the time. But in 2020, we didn’t have sex all year. She tells me I have to tell her when I want sex, but when I do, she always says we’ll do it tomorrow. Is there anything we can do?
Best Couples Sex Toys (That You Already Own)
We know not everyone has a huge budget for sex toys. Most people have a few key favourites that they use regularly, and occasionally splash out to add another awesome toy to their collection. So in the spirit of Money Saving Experts, we’re here to help you out and let you in on a little secret: some of the best couples sex toys are things you already own.
Everything Wrong With That ‘Men Try Sex Toys’ Video
One of the perks of working for Hot Octopuss is that you get to see all the latest gossip and chat about sex toys. Every day we get to see the latest tweets, videos and news stories about the latest gadgets and gizmos for your dick, and as a result we get to be ahead of the penis-pleasure curve. So to speak.
I Use a Vibrator, But No Success Reaching Orgasm
I’m 55, and for the past few months I haven’t been able to achieve an orgasm. I use a vibrator, but no success. I have attempted to create satisfaction multiple times, but nothing happens. It feels great but it’s quite disappointing because the result is nothing.
Married Woman Turned On by Lesbian Porn
I’m a 65-year-old woman, married to a man for 45 years. We are good together, happy together, but we haven't had sex in 30 years. I watch porn and masturbate, but what really arouses me is lesbian porn. Am I the only married woman who would like to experiment with another woman my age? Is this a common urge for happily married seniors?
Senior Sex Stories During Lockdown
When Joan Price asked her newsletter subscribers how they were dealing with sex during lockdown, many said their sex lives were as good as before, or better. Here are their senior sex stories.
Wife is My Caregiver, No Sex
I am a 69-year-old male who has had a diagnosis of ALS for two years. My wife is 65 and my primary caregiver. Her caregiving includes cooking meals, lifting me out of chairs and beds, managing meds, and being sure I haven’t fallen, since I can’t get up on my own.
No Sex 20 Years, Craving FWB
My wife and I have been married 50 years minus 6 months of a non-sexual separation in the early 90s that was my choice. Sorry to say the relationship is the same. There has been no intimacy for the past 20 years. I crave a “friend with benefits” (FWB).
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